07 November 2010

The Purpose of Life

When I was in high school during a Moral Education lesson, I remember the teacher asking us:

"What is the purpose of our lives?"

In Chinese: "Wo men huo ze gan she mo?"

I remember it distinctly because no one had an answer. Neither did the teacher provide one.

'Isn't the teacher supposed to give us an answer when no one knows it?' I wondered then.

The question stuck in my head. I mulled over it along the way.

Was it to earn lots of money?
Was it to win lots of awards?
Was it to see the world?
Was it simply to be happy?

20 years later, the answer reveals itself.

The purpose of my life is to help two little people who need me.

To be Vera's care manager. To be her voice. To show naysayers the day-to-day reality of this happy (and unhappy), responsive child behind the Trisomy.

To teach Daen how to eat, poo, talk and grow into a good person.

To perhaps also help others who are on the same path we've trodden...mothers longing for a VBAC, parents of a T18 child.

And what's the purpose of Vera's life?

For a start, she's shown me the answer to the purpose of mine.

"I long to accomplish a great and noble task,
but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks
as if they were great and noble."
Helen Keller